Comments for Enjoy Birth Blog http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com how to enjoy your pregnancy and birth Sat, 28 Nov 2009 23:02:34 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Unexpected Cesarean due to Surprise Breech Baby by enjoybirth http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/09/25/unexpected-cesarean-due-to-surprise-breech-baby/#comment-1425 enjoybirth Sat, 28 Nov 2009 23:02:34 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=972#comment-1425 A mom "could" refuse a cesarean. But when you are being told your baby may die if you deliver vaginally, that is pretty scary and hard to choose not to. A mom “could” refuse a cesarean. But when you are being told your baby may die if you deliver vaginally, that is pretty scary and hard to choose not to.

]]> Comment on Weddings and Births by Patrice http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2008/06/27/weddings-and-births/#comment-1424 Patrice Sat, 28 Nov 2009 18:47:31 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=150#comment-1424 I completely understand on what you mean about women who spend money on weddings, yet do not give that much effort on researching and planning for a homebirth, let alone spending the money to make it happen. Or spending money on a doula and time and resources on classes. However, I take issue with comparing one woman's situation to another. I think it's a little off putting when someone says to me, if so and so can do it, you can too. When I became pregnant with my 3rd son, I had no job, no money, and I moved in briefly with my mother after having a huge blow out with my boyfriend. I already had two boys with me. I researched my options in the bay area (where I was with my mother), and found a birth center that would bill to medical. But I soon reconciled with my boyfriend and moved back into our house. I was told by more than one resource that I would not be able to use medical for a midwife back home and instead of researching further I listened to them. (That was my biggest regret, making a judgment out ignorance) As I grew in my pregnancy, I grew uneasy with the idea of another hospital birth and I thought I had to find someone who could help me. Then I watched The Business of Being Born and a real fire burning for a home birth.I searched high and low for a midwife who would take me so late in the game, none of them either could or would bill to Medical. The ONLY free standing birth center in my area would not as well. I was stuck, unless I could come up with the $4500 myself. I had NO income, and my boyfriend was using our savings to get by (he'd been out of work since the beginning of my pregnancy). We ask to borrow the money, but the family members didn't want to contribute to something that put the babies life in danger. IN hindsight we should have said it was for something else, but I honestly didn't think I'd get the reactions I did. My mother wanted to help, but was out of work on comp a and having surgery soon. The bottom line is, I could not come up with the money. It made me super sad, because really it's such a small amount of money, but was desperately out of reach for me. The difference between me and your friend could be help from a family member, a less expensive mortgage (mines was 2200), no other kids (I had two), and the list goes on and on. I think the point we should be making to women is showing them all the different ways they can perhaps make the home birth happen as oppose to comparing them to other women. For instance, lots and lots of women don't know there are traveling midwives. Lots of women don't know you can find midwives who take payment plans. Giving women alternatives to their issues is much more of productive way to address this issue. I completely understand on what you mean about women who spend money on weddings, yet do not give that much effort on researching and planning for a homebirth, let alone spending the money to make it happen. Or spending money on a doula and time and resources on classes. However, I take issue with comparing one woman’s situation to another. I think it’s a little off putting when someone says to me, if so and so can do it, you can too. When I became pregnant with my 3rd son, I had no job, no money, and I moved in briefly with my mother after having a huge blow out with my boyfriend. I already had two boys with me. I researched my options in the bay area (where I was with my mother), and found a birth center that would bill to medical. But I soon reconciled with my boyfriend and moved back into our house. I was told by more than one resource that I would not be able to use medical for a midwife back home and instead of researching further I listened to them. (That was my biggest regret, making a judgment out ignorance) As I grew in my pregnancy, I grew uneasy with the idea of another hospital birth and I thought I had to find someone who could help me. Then I watched The Business of Being Born and a real fire burning for a home birth.I searched high and low for a midwife who would take me so late in the game, none of them either could or would bill to Medical. The ONLY free standing birth center in my area would not as well. I was stuck, unless I could come up with the $4500 myself. I had NO income, and my boyfriend was using our savings to get by (he’d been out of work since the beginning of my pregnancy). We ask to borrow the money, but the family members didn’t want to contribute to something that put the babies life in danger. IN hindsight we should have said it was for something else, but I honestly didn’t think I’d get the reactions I did. My mother wanted to help, but was out of work on comp a and having surgery soon. The bottom line is, I could not come up with the money. It made me super sad, because really it’s such a small amount of money, but was desperately out of reach for me. The difference between me and your friend could be help from a family member, a less expensive mortgage (mines was 2200), no other kids (I had two), and the list goes on and on. I think the point we should be making to women is showing them all the different ways they can perhaps make the home birth happen as oppose to comparing them to other women. For instance, lots and lots of women don’t know there are traveling midwives. Lots of women don’t know you can find midwives who take payment plans. Giving women alternatives to their issues is much more of productive way to address this issue.

]]> Comment on Am I on some kind of Christmas Crack? by Laura http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/am-i-on-some-kind-of-christmas-crack/#comment-1422 Laura Fri, 27 Nov 2009 20:30:46 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=1236#comment-1422 Wow! You are so organized! I'm totally impressed with all you have done....I've got lots left to do! :-) Wow! You are so organized! I’m totally impressed with all you have done….I’ve got lots left to do! :-)

]]> Comment on Am I on some kind of Christmas Crack? by *Marie* http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/am-i-on-some-kind-of-christmas-crack/#comment-1421 *Marie* Fri, 27 Nov 2009 19:12:20 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=1236#comment-1421 Count me in for the contest. Thank you! Count me in for the contest. Thank you!

]]> Comment on Unexpected Cesarean due to Surprise Breech Baby by John http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/09/25/unexpected-cesarean-due-to-surprise-breech-baby/#comment-1420 John Fri, 27 Nov 2009 19:08:33 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=972#comment-1420 What's the story with more rights in the ER? What happens if someone simply refuses a c-section? What’s the story with more rights in the ER? What happens if someone simply refuses a c-section?

]]> Comment on My favorite Personal Breastfeeding Pictures by Gloria Lemay http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/11/23/my-favorite-personal-breastfeeding-pictures/#comment-1419 Gloria Lemay Thu, 26 Nov 2009 20:04:53 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=1176#comment-1419 They are all beautiful but I particularly like the last one with that little knee touching the other breast. We need more images of the baby turned tummy to tummy, up high and worn like a belt, with hip, shoulder and ear in a straight line. That photo does it all. They are all beautiful but I particularly like the last one with that little knee touching the other breast. We need more images of the baby turned tummy to tummy, up high and worn like a belt, with hip, shoulder and ear in a straight line. That photo does it all.

]]> Comment on Am I on some kind of Christmas Crack? by Alison http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/am-i-on-some-kind-of-christmas-crack/#comment-1418 Alison Thu, 26 Nov 2009 13:56:56 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=1236#comment-1418 Good gravy, girlfriend, ship me some of your get-up-and-go, will you? I'm seriously lacking. I just started the gift list for everyone, and haven't even thought about actually going and buying anything! Going out on Black Friday was always my favorite thing to do (I'm sick, I know) but NOT with two little ones, so there goes that tradition! Good gravy, girlfriend, ship me some of your get-up-and-go, will you? I’m seriously lacking. I just started the gift list for everyone, and haven’t even thought about actually going and buying anything! Going out on Black Friday was always my favorite thing to do (I’m sick, I know) but NOT with two little ones, so there goes that tradition!

]]> Comment on Am I on some kind of Christmas Crack? by Liz http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/am-i-on-some-kind-of-christmas-crack/#comment-1417 Liz Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:03:16 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=1236#comment-1417 Nice music. I have been looking for some new Christmas music! Nice music. I have been looking for some new Christmas music!

]]> Comment on Am I on some kind of Christmas Crack? by Samantha http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/am-i-on-some-kind-of-christmas-crack/#comment-1416 Samantha Thu, 26 Nov 2009 00:39:03 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=1236#comment-1416 Pick me! Pick me! :) That sounds like a lovely CD, I love the title! Thank you for sharing it with us, Sheridan! Pick me! Pick me! :) That sounds like a lovely CD, I love the title! Thank you for sharing it with us, Sheridan!

]]> Comment on Am I on some kind of Christmas Crack? by Lorna http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/2009/11/25/am-i-on-some-kind-of-christmas-crack/#comment-1415 Lorna Thu, 26 Nov 2009 00:22:06 +0000 http://enjoybirth.wordpress.com/?p=1236#comment-1415 You do have a busy month ahead! I'm well on my way... do have the house to get organized though. I loved your gift numbering suggestion, and will be passing that idea along to my 4 adult children! Sounds like a fabulous CD and one I would love to play for my grandchildren.. and myself. :) You do have a busy month ahead! I’m well on my way… do have the house to get organized though. I loved your gift numbering suggestion, and will be passing that idea along to my 4 adult children!

Sounds like a fabulous CD and one I would love to play for my grandchildren.. and myself. :)

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